We have the right to know and express our truths in our own time. It’s okay to have a delayed reaction when our truths are compromised. It’s okay to take your time articulating why you’re feeling discomfort. It’s okay if you don’t even know you’re feeling discomfort until much, much later.
Is there enough room for growth in our relationships?
The False Safety In Being Someone Else
A Beginner’s Guide to Overcoming the Fear of Visibility
The fear of visibility is common among the people I work with. It’s definitely something I struggle with also. Sure, there are plenty of good reasons to be afraid. And there are ghosts from embarrassing-things-past that still haunt us. Here are 5 ways to help you overcome the fear of visibility when it's stopping you from achieving your goals and living your true passion.
Finding the deep-down joy in selfhood
Tolerating the Fear of Visibility
Think back to a time when you were truly unafraid to be yourself. For me, my mind often finds my eleven-year-old self. That quirky little preadolescent was exuberant, joyful, and unconcerned with the judgment of others.
Back then I was a goalie for my local soccer team. I wasn’t the best. But every game, I stood in goal and I tried. And I owned being a goalie–it was a core part of my identity. I allowed myself to be this thing, without qualification or judgment.
The thing that made me a goalie wasn’t my skill, it was my courage. My willingness to keep trying. My ability to recover after goals scored on me. My ability to tolerate visibility-both in good and hard moments.
I didn’t need to be the best. I just needed to be.
I’d like to think my eleven-year-old self is cheering me on now, is saying it’s okay to keep trying. To remember a time when I wasn't the best, but I was joyful and courageous. That short little gumdrop I used to be is part of me—and I can breathe and smile and access the power from those moments anytime I need.
How can you integrate past moments of being in your power to help you now & step into a deeper, more joyful, judgment-free self-understanding?